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Ego Is the Enemy
- The book follows three stages: aspire, success and failure. Ego causes a different problem at each one.
- When you're starting out, talk less and work more. Telling people about the plan can feel like progress.
- Stay a student. Find people better than you, and keep learning after you've had some success.
- Success brings entitlement and a need for control. Keep your own scorecard and measure yourself by your effort and standards.
- When you fail, use the time. Holiday calls it alive time versus dead time: learn and build while you wait, instead of sulking.
Why is your ego the thing standing in your way?
Your ego hurts you at every stage: it makes you talk instead of work, believe your own hype, and refuse to learn from failure. Stay a student and judge yourself by your own effort.
Actionable
- Go one week without announcing a goal before you've started it.
- Write three standards you'd be proud of even if no one ever saw the result.
- After your next setback, list one thing you can learn or build while you wait for things to turn.
What readers say
- Readers new to self-help say it hit at the right time, and one newsletter writer said a friend found it extremely helpful when he needed a voice telling him to pull back.
- The most common complaint: each chapter follows the same pattern of a quote, a story and the lesson restated.
- Per one software engineer's review, the book sometimes mixes up ego with confidence, though the failure section is the strongest part.
- Some readers say the historical stories feel cherry-picked to fit the point. Another reader replied that the ideas work once you actually apply them.
Quick answer
Our summary of Ego Is the Enemy by Ryan Holiday, in our own words.
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Tips from readers, plus one of ours
- Read a chapter a day. The chapters are short and readers say the repetition bothers them less in small doses.
- Do before you announce. Several readers say the 'talk less, do more' idea was the one that actually changed their week.
- Reread the failure part when you need it. one software engineer's review calls it the strongest section, and readers keep it for rough patches.
- Agree or disagree: one newsletter writer argues a bit of ego helps, and many successful people have some. We agree. The book works best as a check on ego when it starts making decisions for you, and a healthy amount of confidence still matters.
- Our unusual tip: keep a 'said vs did' note for one month. Each time you tell someone about a plan, add a line. Each time you finish a step, add a line in the other column. If the 'said' column wins, you've found exactly the habit the book is about.
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FAQ: questions people ask
What is Ego Is the Enemy about?
The book follows three stages: aspire, success and failure. Ego causes a different problem at each one.
When you're starting out, talk less and work more. Telling people about the plan can feel like progress.
Is Ego Is the Enemy worth reading?
Our verdict is some value given. A quick, quotable read on how ego trips you up when you're starting out, when you're winning and when you're losing. Strong reminders, and a lot of repetition across short chapters.
Who should read Ego Is the Enemy?
Ambitious people early in a career, anyone who just had a big win or a big loss, and readers who liked The Obstacle Is the Way.
What's the main idea of Ego Is the Enemy?
Your ego hurts you at every stage: it makes you talk instead of work, believe your own hype, and refuse to learn from failure. Stay a student and judge yourself by your own effort.
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